um, um, um. honey you are SO much better off w/o him! he is deceitful and cruel. they deserve each other. it won't last between them (look at their history!) and you should move ahead confident that someone out there is just waiting to meet you, and make you happy. when he comes crawling back :let him go on and on. say how do i know you're really serious. tell him you want to think about it and then change your numbers!

(i read the other post too)

what a piece of sh*t.....so better off without him....but truth be told, i got a little angry just reading this, so ur anger is justified.

you've got to ask youself the question honey, did he jump or was he pushed?

He's a jerk. Chalk him up as a lesson learned and move on.

I just realized how old this was. How are you now? I hope you're doing your own thing enjoying life and doing the all things you want.

Well I am doing better now thanks for asking...I am trying to move on still. I work with him, so we have to see each other on a regular basis. It has been tough because about two weeks after I posted this he saw the error of his ways and wants to make amends with me. But honestly I don't even want him in my life, however my heart says differently, I loved him and it is hard to walk away and now he is saying that he wasn't thinking straight when he dumped me and he wants to take it back...but now he is with his babymomma and he cant take it back. Lots of bullsh*t basically trying to keep the contact with him to a minimum although we are friendly and I harbor no resentment at this point...and I have started dating again, and met lots of loser ass men so far...where are all the good guys? Thanks for the posts everyone, it brought up my spirits at the time and I read them occasionally just to remind myself not to fall for his bullsh*t!

atablackbelt, you said "..now he is with his babymomma..." Does he have a child with her? It also sounds like he's wanting to be with you and her. You are very smart not to fall for any lines.

There are good men out there. Respectable men want women who respect themselves. So remember, you have to think of yourself and your needs. Anybody who tries to make you feel like that is wrong, is bad news. Love yourself and respect yourself. You will draw the right man to you.

Yeah he actually has two daughters with her 3 years and 5 years old....since I posted earlier today, I have done some investigating on my own, and SHOCKINGLY enough they are on the verge of breaking up again...she has got fired from her job for stalking me on myspace and for posting inappropriate comments about me on myspace,as well as drinking on the job. With no education to fall back on (she only had the job cuz of her momma) she hasn't found anything else. She is also gone right back to threatening to kick him out if he dares disobey her...(hint ladies....that never keeps a man around). I really think he just realizes he gave up a smart, educated, independent woman, for someone who can't stand on her own two feet. I never demanded anything from him other than respect and when we were together he treated me like a princess, I will say that. But I am not willing to give him another chance to get mad and walk out of my life again. Long story short, she has no job, and he cannot support a family of six on his income (she has two other kids by two other men) and now I think he wants to bail and go back to the single life and live with me, cuz then he only has to pay a few hundred dollars a month child support plus half the living expenses with me. And he knows that I have good paying job and will always be able to support myself...(rather than start having kids at fourteen (she did) I chose to get edumacated) anyway...I am not fallin for this bullsh*t, I ain't that dumb, I deserve better, I just really really hate dating....

Golly, are we involved with the same guy? My boyfriend ( well ex, as of Sunday) did the same thing to me, told me I was paranoid, insecure, jealous, etc. etc. etc. Well considering he had me helping him out when he was down on his luck(the ex-girlfriend left him, paying all her bills before she left and cleaning out his bank acct. leaving him BROKE) I was paying his bills, all the while he was calling her everytime I would leave to go home to my house for a couple of days, texting her and meeting her for "dinners" discussing allegedly how to divide the furniture the two of them had together. Mind you, I was paying $100.00 cell phone bills, $150.00 landline phone bills and he was calling her! I found text messages to another ex of his that were sexual in nature and he said that they meant nothing. He did $3000.00 worth of damage to my pristine 2005 Jeep Wrangler because I wouln't leave his house- How could I? He took the keys, then threw huge rocks breaking the windows and doing $2500.00 damage to the body. Never mind I loaned him $8500.00 to buy a Ford Ranger truck so he would have something reliable to get back and forth to work in. I could go on but it would just make everyone out there wonder what in the heck is wrong with that woman?! Well "Love is blind, togetherness restores it's sight", that is my only defense.

men sometimes don't know what they want or have until they lose it.trust me i know!

wow sounds like quite the mess, u should just stay away from him all together too much baggage. and clearly u were right for suspecting he was trying to get back with her in the first place. if anything he broke up with u to win her back. he just said u were insecure as an excuse. i kno these things are better said than done...but move on. plus they have kids together which means she will always be around. unless u plan on waiting around for her to meet someone else , she will always be in his life